Last Updated on August 23, 2022
Do you have a pre-game ritual before heading out on a date? Some people have a specific grooming process, some like to sip on an adult beverage to take the edge off, and others might blast some music to get themselves pumped. If you’re looking for a ritual of your own, or you want to enhance the one you already have, we’ve got you covered! Here are three things you should always do before a hot date.
Three Things To Do Before Casual Sex Dates
Before heading out on a date, especially one where casual sex is an option, make sure to communicate your needs, wants, and desires ahead of time. Even if you’ve had sex with your date before, touching base about feelings and moods is always a wise choice. For example, maybe your date is having a bad day and wants to chill, and other times they want to get it on as much as possible. Other times they might be unsure of how they feel and want to ride things out before making a decision. Each of these is okay, so long as communication is happening. Once you’ve got the communication part down, it’s time to move on to the part. Here are three steps to incorporate into your pre-date ritual!
Clean Up And Prepare
Casual sex is fun, and the idea of finding a new person to fool around with can be very exciting. However, it’s also a special occasion, so proper preparations are essential. Take some time to shower, and if you’re going to groom your pubic hair, be sure to do it before the day before to avoid causing friction from the hairs during sex. After trimming, if you choose to do so, take some time to shower or bathe. People don’t like having stray hairs in their mouth, so wash up well to help prevent this from happening.
Other preparations can include:
- Getting a haircut.
- Picking out sexy underwear.
- Making sure your sex toys are charged and condoms are available.
Safe sex is an essential part of casual sex for the protection of everyone involved. Lubricant can also be a massive benefit, so you should also have that available at all times. Different lubes are better for certain activities, so if you’re looking to use them with condoms, get a lubricant that will not damage the latex. Water-based lubricants are ideal for this, and some hybrids can also work. Avoid silicone-based lubricants if using condoms, but you can keep some around for use with sex toys if that is the direction you’re going.
Think About Safety
If this is your first time meeting up with someone for casual sex, or it’s the first time you’re going on a date with them, take some time to think about your safety. Let a loved one know where you’re going, and make sure they have your contact information to check in with you now and then. If you change locations at any point during the date, be sure to let your loved one know.
In addition to looking out for your physical safety, you should also pack condoms or other birth control for additional protection. Dental dams can also be fantastic if you’re planning on eating the other person out, while dental dams can also be used for rimming.
Some people who are looking for casual sex are also interested in BDSM experiences. If you’re excited about a BDSM date, make sure you’ve discussed boundaries, triggers, and limits. Your safety is an essential part of any date, and in the hour before the date, you should go through this safety checklist to make sure you have everything you need.
Get Yourself Psychologically Ready
Many people find that when they’re going on a casual sex date, mentality can significantly impact whether they have a good time or not. Go into the date with a positive mindset, and get excited about the new person you’re about to share an experience with. If you have had sex with them before, think about the positives of the last fuck session you had and what new things you’d like to try this time around.
People have many different types of rituals they do when getting psychologically ready for a date. Sometimes they have a song that they like to play on the drive over. Other times they have conversations with themselves. Some people get psychologically ready by masturbating before heading out to relieve some of the tension.
Three Things To Do Before A Traditional Date
Clean Up And Prepare
Traditional dating is similar to casual dating in that you want to spend some time cleaning up, shaving, picking out an outfit, and doing other preparations. Before a date, some people choose to prepare by listening to a list of their favorite tunes. Others are more about relaxing, taking a bubble bath, and getting mentally prepared.
Be Safe
Safety is a priority, so make sure to let someone know where you’re going. Provide your phone number and have them check up with you via telephone, text message, or messenger. If you’re going to change locations, even if it’s just down the street from your meeting location, let your safety contact know. If you’re heading to someone’s house, let them know the address of the place you’re headed as well. Remember, protecting yourself, both physically and in terms of your private data, is essential.
Confirm The Date Details
Many people find that they’ve written the date, time wrong, or location wrong when planning where to meet up. Avoid a potential mix-up by taking some time to confirm the date details in the hours before to make sure you’re going to the right place, at the right time, on the right date.
Now that you’ve got your pre-game ritual down to a science, it’s time to enjoy your date!